So, my roommate and I have had a fairly decent relationship rooming together this year.  There are only a few minor problems I have with her (mostly with her leaving the fridge a total mess - half eaten fruit that gets its juices all over the shelves, primarily - and me being the one to clean it up).  However, my best friend and I have decided that we want to room together next year.  The problem is....... how to bring up the subject with my current roomie.

It wouldn't be so much of a problem, and I wouldn't feel as bad, if it weren't for the fact that I'm not sure if she'll have anyone to room with next year - and she's told her parents that she really really likes having me as a roommate.

I really don't want to hurt her feelings, or leave her stuck out in the cold.  I am considering asking her if she'd like to be a suite-mate with us, since some of the rooms in the residence hall my friend and I want to get in to are suite-style, while others are separate rooms with community bathrooms.  However, I don't even know if we're allowed to request such things, or how we'd go about it (if it's the same form we filled out at the end of last semester, there's no option for that).

Basically, I could use some advice on how to bring up the subject and make sure her feelings don't get hurt.  Any ideas?

Thanks in advance!

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Maybe ease her into it? Say something like "Where do you want to live next year?" and see if you have a differing opinion, if i can be applied, say something like that you want to live in the same area as your friends. From there, it is easier for you to break it off because what would make you happy wouldn't make her happy.

If worst comes to worse, you may just have to come clean and say that you would rather live with your friend than her. She might be understanding, or she might be angry. But it would be best to start this conversation now, near the last quarter of school, than later




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