Out with Love and In with Hooking-Up and SEX, Lots of it!
Has the world taken a spin on how we find a mate today? Should fairy tales and story books only consist of one nighters until that prince in shining armor comes a knockin'. Or shall we all dress in our most sexy attire and flirt our way through classrooms.
This whole hooking-up frenzy in colleges is an alien concept when presented with the teachings of the dating do's and don'ts that are displayed on televisions and movie screens.
So why is hooking-up so widely accepted? Or ideal for today?
Tags: hooking, love, relationships, up
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Permalink Reply by GirlyGalTal on -
I do not agree with it one bit, but it is true, it is constantly happening...
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Permalink Reply by Dennis Evans on -
Television and movies are complete bullshit. They create a standard that is completely untouchable for most men. This is why I wasn't the best tennis player on the team in high school, why people routinely start things significantly later in life than I do and are still better than me, why I have only one friend. In a tv world, all of these things would be different, people would care about the high school sports I played, people would have come just to cheer me on, I would be mad popular. But life isn't on TV, life is life, it's one hard knock after another. We wake up one day and it's the worst day of our lives, and we wake up the next and somehow it's even worse than before.
And monogamous relationships are only in place because so many people are so religious and allow their religions to determine their thoughts, actions, and personalities. This is not an insult, it is a fact. You've been brainwashed from birth to believe these things, factually accurate or not, and you just believe them for your entire life. The truth is that humans aren't built for "life long relationships" we're built to go as long as we can or want and then move on. Don't believe me, tell that to the highest divorce numbers ever.
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Permalink Reply by Michaela Osiecki on -
You're right that biologically we aren't typically built for life-long commitments, but I don't necessarily think it's a "religious" tenet that makes us think we should be in them. It's something that's seeped into society all around the world for various reasons.
It could be that we think we're bound to a person by the whole "soulmate" concept. We could be imitating the few species of animals that take on one mate for life. Sure, some religions push the whole "til death do we part" thing but not all of them do....
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Permalink Reply by Mark on -
Well if you look at the culture that surrounds us-Jersey Shore anyone? It makes hooking up seem like such an easy thing. Go to any random girl at a club, give a few compliments, and bring her home. Its disturbing and it definitely increases the chance of herpes going around, but thats the way it works. Media is a powerful tool and right now its being used in the wrong way
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Permalink Reply by Bernard Charles on -
So does hooking up have anything to do with love?
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Permalink Reply by GirlyGalTal on
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not really!
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Permalink Reply by Beth Allison on -
I personally dont think sex has anything to do with love, its purely physical. and thats why it happens a lot in college, because people want the physical w/o the relationship.
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Permalink Reply by Lynne Wagner on -
No- hooking up is purely physical. Granted, some may be friends, but the stronger emotion of unconditional love is not demonstrated when one "hooks up."
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Permalink Reply by Wes Farquhar on -
-Dennis, I agree with what you said about religious tradition and monogamous relationships. I will add on however that for reasons unexplained by our bodies (males or more or less designed to f*** & chuck as fast as they can, while women have to deal with the pregnancy), it feels DAMN good to have a healthy, long-term romantic relationship with someone you connect with. That's why break-ups suck. But keep some faith, the divorce rate has actually gone down in the past 30 years
-GirlyGalTal, I'm sorry, what did you mean when you said "I do not agree with it one bit, but it is true..."?
-Ayush, right on sir. I agree
We've basically gotten de-sensitized to sex. When I think about what's going on, I see our culture pushing boundaries of what people say is acceptable like a little kid trying to see what they can get away with doing. Statistically, we are having sex just as much as people in the 1950s, but we are having it at younger and younger ages...and that cements the idea of this exploration for me. It isn't just married people that are f****** nowadays; there are people that love each other, people that have hookups, and people that love each other and have sex. Maybe this whole thing is just a fad moving in a circle, the Romans openly did all sorts of freaky shit hundreds of years ago but there aren't many stories about the queen of England going tits out in the street in the 1900s.
-Wes
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Permalink Reply by GirlyGalTal on
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Sorry Wes - I do not agree with people being just hook-ups, but it is true...that it is happening everywhere today...
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Permalink Reply by Erika Krause on
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Because hooking up is super fun! Be safe, use discretion, and make sure both parties are into it before you start anything.
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